Many people dream of relationships that are continuous, unending, unfading… forever in an idealistic, fairy tale sense.
But sometimes along the way, it feels a touch underwhelming, it doesn’t feel as starry or as dreamy as we envisage. We hit rough patches and that we need to fight to stay what’s ours, to carry on dearly and not let that precious gift slip.
1. Self assessment is vital
A user shares from her mother’s experience with selfishness and the way she changed to being more selfless.
“When my mum and my dad were on their second separation, she was out together with her ally and was venting about all the items she wanted him to vary .
“Her friend asked her ‘What are you willing to vary about yourself?’ It made my mother believe how she negatively affected the wedding too and realise that if she wanted him to vary things about himself, she needed to be willing to vary things about herself and meet him halfway.”
2. True romance remains in the small things
“Do the small things. Sometimes I definitely don’t want to get off the couch and help my wife with something, but I know she really appreciates it when I do,” another user says, before poetically adding the following words;
3. About communication and selflessness
According to this Mrs, “There are definitely times when my husband is telling me a few game or movie and that i don’t need to concentrate . But I always attempt to because it matters to him.”
4. Don’t just say it, show it
“I think the best relationship advice I have ever received is that you don’t have to always verbally comfort them and you can still let them know you care by just being there,” another user adds.
5. Don’t ever get too old for romance
“Even if you’re married, never stop dating your spouse. Love is active,” someone shared before being backed up by another who said “don’t make it all about the children. They won’t be around forever, but the two of you will.”